When it comes to divorce, no person’s situation is exactly the same as another’s, making every divorce case different. But no matter which way you look at it, it is typically always a complex process. This is why today we are going to cover some of the most common mistakes we see people make while going through the divorce process in order to prevent making it even more complicated than it already is. We will also provide some valuable insight on how you can better avoid making them. If you have any questions or would like to speak with a professional divorce lawyer in New York City, contact us at the Law Office of Diron Rutty in the Bronx today.
Mistake #1: Not Educating Yourself on the Process
Many individuals who are going through a divorce likely don’t quite know what to expect, especially if it is their first time going through it. While you may have talked with friends or family members who are divorced in order to see what they dealt with, it is important to know that their situation may be entirely different than yours, and it likely is. Assuming every divorce is the same can easily lead you down a path of confusion and disappointment. To avoid this, do some research online or get in touch with an experienced divorce attorney who can get to know your unique situation, answer any questions, and give you some insight as to what your case may entail.
Mistake #2: Not Having Your Priorities Straight
Another big mistake we see people make during the divorce process is having their priorities out of order. This mistake can be easily avoided by deciding what your main priorities are early on in the process. If you have kids, maintaining their wellbeing should always be your first priority. After that, you will need to consider your needs over your wants when it comes to shared items such as your house. It is also important to consider whether or not you will be able to afford these items on your own. Your divorce attorney can also help you with evaluating these items.
Mistake #3: Not Being Honest
Facts are important during a divorce — such as facts about why you are getting the divorce, facts about property and assets, facts about your kids, and so on. If you are not being honest with all of this information, you will likely end up going down a path that makes the divorce process that much more complicated and difficult for you in the end. Be upfront and honest with your divorce attorney and provide them with every bit of information that they need in order to give you the best representation that they possibly can. You will also want to be honest with yourself and figure out what it is that you want for your life once the divorce process is over.
Mistake #4: Not Being Able to Tame Your Emotions
While it is completely normal to feel many different emotions throughout the divorce process, it is important not to let these feelings get the best of you. We see it happen far too often where decisions are made when emotions are out of control and those decisions end up being regretted later on. Having emotions that are out of your control can be particularly damaging when making crucial decisions that have to do with your children and/or assets. These decisions need to be made when your mind is in the right spot and you have the correct information and support from your divorce attorney in order to make an educated decision. And while you may not end up with everything you want in your divorce case, remaining calm is much more likely to work in your favor rather than being overly dramatic or angry.
Mistake #5: Not Observing How Your Kids Are Doing
Divorce can be incredibly stressful and confusing for kids. As a parent, you need to keep in mind that your children will experience a range of emotions and provide them with constant and consistent love and support. They need to be reminded that while you and your partner are splitting up, it does not change how much you love them. As the parent, you want your kids to see you as strong and assured about your decisions throughout the process as this will help them feel less afraid or unsure as your family structure chances. Some tips for this are to talk to them about how they are feeling and keep an eye on their habits for anything that could be concerning. If you do notice that one of all of your children are having a difficult time handling it, consider speaking with a mental health professional who can talk with them and teach them healthy, productive ways of coping with their emotions.
Divorce is never an easy process and mistakes happen to the best of us, so it isn’t abnormal if you find yourself in one or more of these situations. One of the best pieces of advice we can give to those going through a divorce is to educate yourself and keep these mistakes in mind throughout your divorce. An experienced divorce attorney like the ones at the Law Office of Diron Rutty in the Bronx can also help you during this difficult time and guide you through the process in order to reduce as much stress as possible given the circumstances. Reach out today to learn more.